Though Rachel was the beloved, it was Leah—the one with “weak eyes,” the one overlooked—who became the mother of Judah, the ancestor of Christ. From the very beginning, the story of Jacob, Leah, and Rachel is tangled with human schemes. Jacob tricked his brother Esau. Laban tricked Jacob into marrying Leah. Rachel, in her envy, gave her maidservant to Jacob to bear children. Leah, desperate for love, did the same. This family saga is woven with manipulation, jealousy, favoritism, and deep wounds. Yet, somehow, out of this brokenness, God brings forth redemption.

Leah longed to be chosen by Jacob, but she was chosen by God. In a culture that prized beauty, Rachel had the favor, but it was Leah whose womb was opened, whose heart was softened, and whose praise birthed a son named Judah—whose name means “praise.” And from Judah came David, and from David, Jesus—the Lion of the tribe of Judah.

God didn’t wait for the family to get their lives together before working out His plan. He moved right through the chaos. Humans schemed, compared, and controlled—but God wove redemption into the very heart of it. It’s a reminder that God’s purposes are not derailed by human mess. He doesn’t abandon us when we fall short or make mistakes. He moves through our weakness and still brings beauty from ashes.

The story of Leah shows us that even when we are unloved by people, unseen by the world, or caught in someone else’s scheme, we are never forgotten by God. He chooses the overlooked. He redeems the flawed. He brings Christ—not from the perfect plan—but from the painful one. From Leah, not Rachel. And in doing so, He reminds us that grace is never earned. It’s given.

Immaturity and the Ten Commandments: A Call to Grow in Christ

Spiritual growth is not just about age, church attendance, or biblical knowledge—it’s about how deeply one’s life is rooted in obedience and transformation.

When we fail to incorporate core concepts of the Ten Commandments, it often reflects more than disobedience; it reveals spiritual immaturity. Scripture teaches that there is a time to grow beyond the basics of faith. As Hebrews 5:12-14 explains, those who remain dependent on spiritual “milk” are unskilled in the word of righteousness. Maturity means being nourished by solid food and having discernment trained by constant practice.

The Ten Commandments, given by God through Moses, are not relics of a bygone era but enduring principles meant to shape a life of depth, responsibility, and reverence. When these commandments are dismissed or taken lightly, the behaviors that follow often reflect childishness. But through obedience, maturity develops—and with it, a clearer reflection of Christ’s character.

Christ set believers free from the law; however, the commandments still carry meaning today. They remain a standard, a mirror, and a pathway to growth.

1. You shall have no other gods before Me

Immaturity shows itself in misplaced priorities. Success, popularity, hobbies, even family or ministry can become “gods” when people rely on them more than the Creator. Children chase what feels good in the moment; the spiritually immature chase temporary gratification—whether that’s a career goal, the validation of others, or control over life. Maturity, on the other hand, recognizes God as the true source of identity and security. When Christ was offered all the kingdoms of the world, He responded, “You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only shall you serve” (Matthew 4:10). That is maturity: choosing what lasts over what shines.

2. You shall not make for yourself a carved image

Idolatry today is digital, emotional, and cultural. It shows up in obsessive social media use, body image worship, or spiritual shortcuts like crystals, horoscopes, or even sacred objects elevated above God. Immature faith demands visible signs of comfort and assurance. Mature faith trusts the unseen hand of God and surrenders every form of idol—even good things made ultimate. As Paul writes, “We live by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7).

3. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain

God’s name is not to be used as a punchline, threat, or empty phrase. Immaturity shows in careless cursing, spiritual manipulation, or throwing around “God told me” to win arguments. Some invoke God’s name to justify vengeance, pride, or legalism. Maturity honors His name by living in a way that reflects His character. God’s name is holy, and mature speech holds that truth close, echoing Psalm 19:14—“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord.”

4. Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy

Those who neglect rest often do so from anxiety, control, or pride. Immature people equate busyness with worth and fail to pause for the sacred. Sabbath is not just about physical rest—it’s about soul recalibration. It’s the refusal to treat life as a race and an invitation to commune with God. Maturity sets boundaries, silences distraction, and rests in God’s sufficiency. A mature heart knows that one’s worth is not in doing, but in being still before the Lord (Psalm 46:10).

5. Honor your father and your mother

Dishonor shows up in sarcasm, neglect, or private resentment. Immature individuals replay past hurts and justify disrespect. Maturity doesn’t pretend parents are flawless, but it chooses honor anyway. It offers patience in difficult conversations, seeks reconciliation when possible, and speaks with gentleness rather than spite. Spiritual growth shows in how people treat not just their parents—but all those who once held authority over them.

6. You shall not murder

Few commit physical murder, but immaturity is revealed in how easily people assassinate others’ character. Gossip, online slander, bitterness, and rage reflect a heart still bound by pride. Jesus said that even anger without cause brings judgment (Matthew 5:22). The mature guard their hearts against offense, forgive quickly, and pursue peace even with those who have wronged them. They understand that life—both physical and emotional—is sacred.

7. You shall not commit adultery

Immaturity blames circumstances, feelings, or unmet needs to justify betrayal. Whether through physical affairs, secret addictions, or emotional entanglements, it reflects a lack of discipline and covenantal respect. Maturity sets safeguards in thought, word, and behavior. It protects the heart from comparison and the eyes from wandering. Maturity says no to fantasy and yes to faithfulness—choosing deep, consistent love over fleeting desire.

8. You shall not steal

Taking what does not belong to you—whether it’s a possession, position, idea, or someone’s trust—shows a heart still grasping for control. Students may cheat, employees may steal time, and even believers may rob God of the worship He is due. Maturity values integrity and contentment. It gives freely, returns what is borrowed, and does the right thing even when unnoticed.

9. You shall not bear false witness

Lying, exaggerating, deflecting blame, or spinning facts to fit a narrative are all signs of spiritual immaturity. Some bear false witness to preserve reputation or to destroy another’s. Maturity refuses to weaponize words. It pursues truth over image, confession over cover-up, and peacemaking over division. The mature are not afraid to say, “I was wrong” and work toward reconciliation.

10. You shall not covet

Coveting is comparison turned toxic. It says, “What they have, I deserve.” Immature hearts are constantly restless—scrolling through envy, living beyond their means, or complaining about what they lack. Maturity delights in what has been given. It practices gratitude and trusts God’s timing. Instead of saying “Why not me?” the mature soul says, “Thank You, Lord, for what is mine today.”

Throughout His earthly ministry, Jesus demonstrated unwavering maturity. In the wilderness, He was tempted with food, power, and identity. Each time, He responded with Scripture. “Man shall not live by bread alone…” “You shall not test the Lord your God.” “You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only.” These were not merely correct theological responses—they were the reflections of a mature, rooted, and surrendered heart.

Believers are called to grow in the same way. Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 13:11, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” Following the Ten Commandments is not legalism—it is spiritual formation. It is the movement from reaction to response, from excuse to ownership, from milk to meat.

The journey toward spiritual adulthood is marked by humility, obedience, and discernment. It is choosing holiness over convenience, character over comfort, and Christ over self. The Ten Commandments are not just rules to follow; they are invitations to grow.

Let the body of Christ grow up—not just in age or in church involvement—but in spiritual maturity. Let the commandments not just be read, but lived.

Again, I throw no stones!

Sinful behaviors can vary depending on cultural, religious, or moral frameworks. In the context of general American society, some behaviors are often considered sinful from a religious perspective, particularly in Christianity. These may include:

• • • Adultery
    • Lying
    • Stealing
    • Murder
    • Coveting (desiring something belonging to someone else)
    • Substance abuse (alcohol, drugs)
    • Greed
    • Dishonoring parents
    • Gossip
    • Lust (pornography, infidelity)
    • Idolatry (putting material things or personal ambitions above spiritual values)

In terms of statistics for sinful behaviors in the U.S., here are some related data points:

• • • Adultery: According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 25% of married men and 19% of married women have had an affair.
    • Lying: A study by the University of Massachusetts found that 60% of people lie at least once during a 10-minute conversation.
    • Substance Abuse: According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, approximately 19.3 million Americans aged 18 or older had a substance use disorder in 2020.
    • Violent Crime: The FBI’s Uniform Crime Reporting (UCR) Program reported 1.3 million violent crimes in the U.S. in 2020.
    • Pornography: Studies estimate that approximately 40 million American adults regularly view pornography.
    • Dishonoring Parents: While harder to quantify statistically, surveys indicate strained family dynamics related to generational gaps, family conflicts, and societal changes.

These behaviors are viewed differently depending on individual, community, and religious beliefs, and the statistics reflect broader societal trends rather than moral assessments.

Here is one of my many theories:

God keeps giving us the same negative scenario* until we no longer react to it.

Sleep in the storm vs cry and worry.

*based on variables we cannot control

God’s goal is for us to have peace and trust in Him.